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Do You Want What You Have?

Updated: Dec 24, 2022

By Jelena Derosa

What does this really mean?

Of course you want what you have because before you had it, you wanted it so badly, you may even have dreamed about it or worked really hard to get it! What about now? Are you still desiring what you have or do you sometimes forget what you have?

I am guilty of not wanting what I have because I finally got what I wanted and it's no longer the same desire because it's already mine. Let me explain it this way:

When we truly "want what we have", we are always grateful and finding new ways to fully appreciate what we have currently. We don't take things for granted. Easier said then done

sometimes! Keep fighting for what you have because there may come a time where you will no longer get to keep what you have!

I'll give you two examples of not wanting what you have and the potential consequences:

Before you had your marriage, you wanted one badly and possibly even stressed over when you'd find your perfect match. Then several months, years down the road you became comfortable with your spouse. You didn't try as hard to impress them, you stopped concerning yourself with how you look, talk, or even behave at times. You didn't go on as many dates or put as much time in showing appreciation and little gestures of love. If this hasn't happened to you B'H! I hope it never does! For those, including myself, who has stumbled

upon this, it can be a major problem down the line. Think of how much you wanted to be married and now it's just apart of your everyday life. It's not something you continue to "want." I don't mean G-d- forbid you don't want to be married, but rather that you don't treat it as you first did. This can eventually lead to shalom bayit issues or divorce, Chas V'shalom (G-d forbid).

I'll give one more minor example:

I know this is a silly example but very common. Our phones! Think of a time you wanted that new phone and how exciting it was to get. You treasured it for the first few days, maybe a week or two. Then it became like your previous phone. No thoughts about it being so new and special. If you're like me, often accidentally dropping it and not being as scared of it breaking as I was the first day it left the store with me. I got comfortable with having the next "new" item that I didn't care as much when I finally got what I wanted. Now, to the next thing I want. This can make us very ungrateful and in constant need of more or "new."

"We must continue to have the desire for something as we did in the beginning, even when we get what we want."

Brought By Jelena Derosa


Jelena Derosa is a new blogger for the Noahide Academy. She has been an observant Noahide for 3 years and is in the process of conversion. She is married with 3 children and is always coming up with new ways to teach her children about being righteous Noahides. She is a stay at home mom who spends most of her time teaching her children Torah and proper character development. Aside from her children, she spends time blogging, and creating YouTube videos where she shares testimonies in hopes to help someone else learn and heal. She is also building her small business called "Modest Me." She tries to help secular women find G-d and discover the beauty of Modesty and live a modest lifestyle.


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22 déc. 2022

Rabbi Zechariah Wallerstein ZT"L is a good expert in this, his lectures are wonderful.

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